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The Affair

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The Affair is a unique self-help book that examines the psyche of both perpetrators and victims of affairs and anyone who struggles with monogamy and fidelity. Written by expert relationship therapist Sue Hickey, along with her client Philippa Sklaar, who has cheated and been cheated on, the book delves into true personal confessions of men and women, old and young, lovers and opportunists who have experienced betrayal and have betrayed. The duo earlier collaborated on the relationship bestseller When Loving Him Hurts (MF Books Joburg, 2015).

"We are not defined by what happens to us but by what we can do with it. Ultimately we choose to be bitter or better after an affair."
- Sue Hickey, author and therapist

The Affair is a unique self-help book that examines the psyche of both perpetrators and victims of affairs and anyone who struggles with monogamy and fidelity. Written by expert relationship therapist Sue Hickey, along with her client Philippa Sklaar, who has cheated and been cheated on, the book delves into true personal confessions of men and women, old and young, lovers and opportunists who have experienced betrayal and have betrayed. The duo earlier collaborated on the relationship bestseller When Loving Him Hurts (MF Books Joburg, 2015).

The Affair provides invaluable insights, guiding people through one of the most challenging times in a relationship by unpacking the nature of affairs, profiling various cheaters from narcissists to sexual predators, while guiding the reader through the pitfalls and pain in the inevitable fallout of betrayal.

It provides practical advice, like how to deal with the crises immediately after discovering the affair and how to use money to save yourself or your marriage. It teaches you how to be hurt without losing your dignity and sanity, and cautions against searching for sordid details at the risk of feeding unnameable jealousy. Challenging issues like struggling with forgiveness, dealing with the children in the relationship, and mastering difficult conversations after an affair are expertly dealt with by Sue Hickey, who has almost 30 years of experience as a therapist.

Ultimately, The Affair navigates the reader through the pain and anguish of betrayal to a place of self-healing that is required by both perpetrators and victims to move forward. The overriding message is that with deep soul searching and guidance, both forgiveness and redemption are possible. The book reveals that reconciliation and a deeper love is possible by unreservedly accepting the truth and love’s challenges. 

EXCERPT FROM THE AFFAIR

I do not believe that an affair is necessarily enough to end a marriage and it does not signal THE END. There are always options. An affair, however, is often reason enough to end a relationship that has not yet become a marriage. The nature of trust is that it takes years to build and can be broken in a moment. It is a high-risk, high-return investment. The safer option would be to trust no one again – ever. The problem with that is that the human spirit wants to trust as it yearns to love. To deny ourselves that urge, that leap of faith, that partnership of love and trust, renders our lives safer but also poorer.
- Sue Hickey, author and therapist

ABOUT THE AUTHORS

Sue Hickey is a well-known and respected Johannesburg-based therapist who has been in private practice for almost 30 years. She has worked with and achieved astounding results in hundreds of people’s lives, including co-author Philippa Sklaar’s, who have been negatively affected by the destructive fallout of affairs and betrayal. 

Phillipa Sklaar has been both the betrayer and the betrayed in a number of relationships and marriages. In The Affair, she bravely and candidly describes her journey through shame and pain along her long and challenging road to healing.

 

ISBN 978-1-920601-73-7
GENRE Self-Help
FORMAT Trade Paperback
SIZE 235x155mm
EXTENT 256pp
PRICE R230
RELEASE August 2016
RIGHTS World Rights