The Refined Player: Sex, Lies and Dates

International model and actor, Stevel Marc, delves into and dissects the uncomfortable truths about honesty and fears in relationships

After being confronted with a realisation that he suffered from intimacy issues, Stevel Marc was led to a place of reflection and self-revelation. Stevel realised that our lives are moving in a new space and relationships are even more complicated. Based on his own intimate experiences with women, as well as drawing on the experiences of the 800 men and women whom he interviewed, Stevel offers us his understanding of dating in our modern world.

‘I realised I could either continue in fear, allowing and living the façade of loving “playerhood” and ignore the pain I felt, or evolve and be the man I knew I was deep within: a good man. It was time to become the refined player ... A refined player means you’re no longer a player. You’re always the perfect gentleman or lady – the dream man or woman who screams marriage material, even though you may not be ready to get married.’

Stevel Marc

The Refined Player: Sex, Lies and Dates presents a kaleidoscope of thoughtful reflections – of a man, his partners, friends and even strangers, whose experiences of love, loss and longing offer intimate insights for the gentleman who wants to be and do more for his woman. It not only helps men to understand their role in relationships, but it also inspires women to be empowered and to expect and demand better from their men. Stevel shows us that it is possible to have those difficult conversations about money, sex, honesty and trust. He offers insight into transitioning from singlehood into a place of meaningful interactions.


About the Author

Stevel Marc is an esteemed emcee, humanitarian, entrepreneur and international model and actor born in Portland, Jamaica. He has acted in many television and cinema commercials. As a voice-over artist, he’s already lent his voice to numerous brands, television programmes and advertisements. He studied film at the New York Film Academy and TVI Actors Studio. His films and series to date include: The Triangle (2005), Of Good Report (2013), The Challenger Disaster (2013), My Zulu Promise (2013), Alien Outpost (2014), Lifeline (2014), Wiken Yummy (2014), Dear Betty (2014), Donor (2014), Anything for Wifey (2014), Trinity: Mirrored Perception (2014), Hometown (2014), Adaption (2014), My Super-overactive Imagination (2015). 

The Refined Player: Sex, Lies and Dates is his first book. – 


Parameters of Book:
Author: Stevel Marc
ISBN: 9781928337041
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Size (mm): 212x136mm
Pages: 192pp
Format: Paperback
Colour: Black and White
Rights: South African
Language: English
Publication Date: August 2015